Support emotions, not emotional drama.

Support emotions, not emotional drama.

 On the first anniversary of their marriage, the husband and wife bought a new car. They drove him to roam the city, ran over him on the beach road with a furrow, watched the film in a drive-in theater and then returned home. Since he did not have a garage, he parked the car outside the house on the side of the road. The next day when he woke up, he was stunned to see that his car was missing. The car was stolen - their first car, something they bought on the first anniversary of their marriage, and which they were able to enjoy in just one day! The wife could not bear it. With tears in her eyes, she sat on the sofa like a tree cut from the dhamma. The husband was also shocked, but in these moments his love for his wife was deep. He came from behind and stuffed it in his arms and said, “The car has been stolen. You can also get upset on this matter, and can take it with ease. The car is already gone, so why not take it spontaneously? ”The wife looked at him a little annoyed, and the time passed. Two months later, the police recovered the car from a gang of car thieves and handed it back to the husband. As he was bringing the car home from the police station, it crashed into a truck. This time it was husband's turn. He could not bear this accident and came home with tears filled with tears like a tree cut down on the sofa. The wife was also shocked, but in these moments her love for her husband prevailed. She came from behind and took her in her arms and said, "The car has crashed." You can also take this thing easily. She has collided, so why not take it at ease? "

 A logical question, when a car is stolen or collided, how can anyone take it easy? But, what else can you do? If you want to get upset and disturbed, and if you want to take it easily - whatever happens, after the emotional drama, you have to do what you want to do. Have to report to the police, send the car for repair, claim for the insurance money… Now what you have to do is to do it.

 The child has failed in a subject. The father knocks him two or three. Mother often beats her forehead and weeps. Isn't this emotional drama? Then what should we do? Now, while teaching that child special attention should be given to that subject - maybe he needs special coaching in that subject - to do what he wants to do. You left the milk gas on the stove. The boiling milk has started boiling out of the pot. Screaming, shouting, wailing, getting stressed, boosting blood pressure… what to do after this emotional drama? Turn off the stove, take the pot down and clean the kitchen counter. After all, whatever is to be done is to be done.

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 Until the resignation of an important employee or the death of a loved one… even after an emotional drama, the same is to be done. Here we are not talking about not being emotional, but of dramatic emotional reactions. It is natural that if someone's vehicle is stolen, then the heart is shocked, when the child fails, you are disappointed, there is nothing wrong with tears in the death of a loved one. It is right to have emotion but it is not right to have emotional drama.

 Emotional maturity is not in keeping away from emotions, but in avoiding emotional drama. Whatever happens, what is to be done is to be done, so why this drama?